From John Ray's shorter notes
December 18, 2015
Some biology that feminists ignore
I really think feminism is a form of insanity. It certainly ignores large slices of reality. Almost any mother will tell you that her sons were boyish from the beginning and that her daughters were girly from the beginning. So let me add a few little anecdotes to that effect:
A family I am close to have a 5-year old boy who has been boyish from the beginning. At age 5 he loves building things. And there is also a 2 year old girl in the family. I have just received an email from the mother concerned in which she said that her daughter "doesn’t have an ounce of ‘tom boy’ in her. I tried to dress her in a brown top yesterday and she cried until I took it off and replaced it with a pink one!" LOL
I often have brunch in a coffee shop which is well attended by middle-class young mothers during the day. And I have always been a bit astounded by the almost totally invariant colours that the mothers put on their children. In whole or in part, it almost always is pink for girls and blue for boys. I often wondered at such a strong consensus but now I think I understand it. It is at least in part what the kids themselves demand! I remember that my son was quite choosy about his clothes when he was aged 2 or thereabouts.
And I know another family in which the mother IS a tomboy. She dresses in a way that feminists would applaud. But to her great surprise, she found that she has a totally girly girl! Now aged 5. The little girl's genetic code completely swamped any example from her mother. But her mother is a loving soul who buys her daughter plastic tiaras and lots of frilly things so there is no horrible feminism to upset the little girl. She claims to be a "Princess" and we all just smile indulgently.
A relative bought her from overseas a very girly dress -- all frills and gauze and bows -- the sort of thing you would normally see only in the Philippines these days. But the little girl loved it and proclaimed it her favourite dress.
And it is relevant that the mother concerned has a fraternal twin sister who was a born Lady, very feminine from her earliest years. The two girls grew up in the same environment but their genetics separated them starkly. Being twins, they still get on well, however.
And I have mentioned before that a mother I know had 3 little boys in close succession who tended to play together. She gave them boy toys -- trucks, trains, guns etc -- but one day was sufficiently influenced by feminist talk to see if her boys might like a doll. So she gave them one. In short order they ripped its eyes out and tore its legs off -- and ignored it thereafter. Normal boys do NOT like dolls!
I helped bring up a boy who one Christmas was delighted to get a "transformer" toy called Optimus Prime. It could be changed either into a truck or a warrior. Being a bit of a tease, I told him that his "warrior" toy was actually a doll. He was quite outraged and vehemently denied it!
And normal mothers don't harass their kids over their choice of toys. The floods of tears are not worth it. In fact, some mothers are sufficiently impressed by the experience of having a totally boyish boy to become anti-feminists. They become advocates for their sons in the face of feminist oppression at school and elsewhere.
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